To Those Who Say Loving The Prophet ﷺ Too Much Leads To Shirk

Bismillah-ir Rahman-ir Raheem

Loving Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is the religion; and knowing his station (peace be upon him) is the religion! Loving him (peace be upon him) is a PART of the religion, and if you do not have this part you do not have the religion! Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said tells us why.

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Whilst in Makkah, during my recent trip, I had the opportunity to converse with some of the scholars of Makkah; may Allah Most High bless the scholars, one of whom said: “I think people are exaggerating when they speak about the love of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), and I fear their exaggeration will lead them to shirk (polytheism).”

I said: may Allah bless you and open the doors of goodness for you, I understand your concern is about tawhid (the oneness of God), but we should see what the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

In a Hadith, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said if a person possesses three things he will taste the sweetness of faith:

  1. the first is to love Allah Most High and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) more than anyone or thing,
  2. second, to love whom you love for the sake of Allah Most High, and
  3. third, to dislike returning to deviance after having been saved and guided from it by Allah Most High as much as he would hate being thrown into the fire. (Imam Muslim)

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said in this hadith that the first of the three is to love Allah Most High and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him); he did not say love Allah Most High and then love the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) used the word and because loving the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is loving Allah Most High!

In another hadith, narrated in Muslim and Bukhari, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: None of you believe until he loves me more than himself, his children and his parents.

And as narrated in Bukhari (6257), Syedina Omar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), I love you more than anything but myself.”

To which the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) replied: “No! I swear by the One in whose Hand is my soul, you cannot claim iman until I am more beloved to you than yourself!”

Then Syedina Omar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Now, by Allah Most High, you are more beloved to me than myself!”

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him): “Now, Ya Omar, you can claim iman!”

Recalling this hadith, I said to our brother that the companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) were not even worried about loving him (peace be upon him) more than themselves!

If you think you are trying to compare between Allah Most High and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), and in doing so you say to yourself that you do not want to make them on the same level (to avoid shirk), and hence you think to lower the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) slightly to insure the safety of your iman – that is the danger that should cause us to worry!

Our love for the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is love for Allah Most High!

This confuses some as they are unable to understand Allah Most High, and so they are fearful of relating or mixing – this fear in itself is shirk!

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said in a hadith that we should love Allah Most High for all the blessings He bestows upon us, love the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) because Allah Most High loves him, and to love the family of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) because of our love for him!

So our love for Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is love for Allah Most High!

The Qur’an describes aspects of the station of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and Allah Most High love for him. Allah Most High teaches us in the Qur’an in Surah Ash-Shu’ara (82), that Ibrahim (peace be upon him) begged Allah Most High for forgiveness: “And I hope that He will forgive my sins on the Day of Judgment.”

And what did Allah Most High say to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) in Surah Al-Fath: “That Allah has forgiven you for what preceded of your sin and what will follow and complete His favor upon you and guide you to a straight path.”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is begging Allah Most High and Allah Most High is giving the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) without him even asking!

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) said in Surah Ibrahim (35): “…protect my children and I from worshipping idols”

And Allah Most High said to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) in Surah Al Ahzab (33): “…Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity, O people of the household, and to purify you completely.”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is begging for purification, and Allah Most High is granting the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and his family full purification!

In Surah As-Saffat (99), Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) states that: “Indeed, I will go to my Lord.”

And in Surah Al-Isra (1), Allah Most High says: “Glory to the One who took His slave at night…”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is going and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is being taken!

In Surah Ahli-Imran (173), Allah Most High relates to us the words of Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him): “Allah Most High is my Sponsor and He is the best of Sponsors.”

And in Surah Al-Anfal (64), Allah Most High says to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): “Oh Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), Allah Most High is your Sponsor…!”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is stating the Allah Most High is his Sponsor, whilst Allah Most High is telling us that He is the Sponsor of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)!

In Surah Ash-Shua’ra (87), Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) asks Allah Most High: “And do not disgrace me on the Day they are [all] resurrected.”

And in Surah At-Tahrim (8), Allah Most High says: “…the Day when Allah will not disgrace the Prophet and those who believed with him.” (peace be upon him)

Not only did Allah Most High tell us that there will be no disgrace upon the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), but that Allah Most High will also not disgrace the believers because of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)!

Within all these ayat we see the greatness of Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him), Khalilullah, the one that Allah Most High chose as a friend, the one described as an entire ummah, the one in whose lineage all the subsequent Prophets reside, but yet we see the greatest station in the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)!

Loving the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is faith. If the ummah were to have this love, we would not be where we are now. Do not fear shirk for the one who loves; we should fear for the one who does not love. LOVE IS NOT THE CAUSE OF OUR ISSUES; IT IS THE LACK OF SUCH LOVE!

May Allah Most High guide us to iman, and make us worthy of following the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).

May Allah Most High reward our friend with the best, as he made us cry in the House of Allah Most High!

Our encounter reminded us of the great ulema of the past, in that once they had a discussion and they felt the outcome of the discussion in their heart, they would leave whatever stance they were upon. As such, we were humbled to meet this alim, as it reminded us of the great ulema: Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him) held the opinion that you cannot benefit from the skin of a dead animal or the child of a dead animal because Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said to not benefit or use anything from a dead animal (narrated by Imam Ahmad). In a discussion that took place between the great scholar Ishaq ibn Rahaway (may Allah be pleased with him) and Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him), the later stated that he believed that one could not benefit from the skin of a dead animal, to which Imam Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with him) said that one can benefit from the skin of a dead animal if it is cleaned properly, as that was mentioned by Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). Upon hearing this, Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him) left his opinion because of the hadith that was narrated, and coincidentally, Imam Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with him) left his opinion upon hearing the hadith narrated by Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him)!

Our brother reminded us of them.

May Allah Most High bless us and open our hearts to the love of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). Allahumma salli alaa Syedina Muhammad wa alaa Ahli Syedina Muhammad, fi kulli lamhatin wa nafasin ‘adada maa wa see-a-hu ‘il-muLLAH

-By Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said

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What Are the Qualities of a Friend?

Answered by Ustadh Tabraze Azam

Question: According to Islam what is the purpose of a friend? How does one show gratitude to Allah for a friend?

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Answer: Wa alaikum assalam wa rahmatullahi wa barakatuh,

I pray that you are in the best of health and faith, insha’Allah.

One’s friends should be people who are helping one draw closer to one’s Lord.

Imam Ghazali (rah) in his Beginning of Guidance (Bidayat al-Hidaya) lists a number of qualities to look for in a friend noting the words of the Prophet (Allah bless him and give him peace), “A person’s religious life is only as good as that of his friend, so let one of you consider well whom he befriends.” [Tirmidhi]

[1] Intellect

– As there is no good friendship with a foolish person;

– Specifically seek someone with practical intelligence who has the capacity to seek benefit, even if worldly;

[2] Good Character

– Ghazali states that someone of bad character is one who cannot restrain their [i] anger or [ii] desire;

– Somebody who truly cares for others. “The religion is sincere counsel.”

[3] Righteousness

“Do not obey someone whose heart We have made heedless of Our remembrance, who follows his inclinations, whose case has gone beyond all bounds.” [Qur’an, 18:28]

– As witnessing the transgression of a wrongdoer on a regular basis will remove from your heart all sense of the enormity of the crimes and make them seem insignificant.

[4] Lack of Greed

– Someone concerned with amassing “things” of this world

– Human nature is designed to imitate and follow (by example), so one person’s nature may take from another without even realizing it.

[5] Honesty

– As one will always face deception from the liar.

Imam Ghazali (rah) continues that after finding a decent friend, one should uphold, respect and fulfill the duties of being a friend.

Gratitude and Growing

Allah Most High says in the Qur’an, ‘If you are thankful, I will surely increase you’ [Qur’an, 14:7] The Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, ‘Whoever does not thank people has not thanked Allah’. [Tirmidhi]

Be grateful for them, appreciate them, and grow in love for one another — the Messenger of Allah (Allah bless him and give him peace) said, narrating from His Lord, “My love is incumbent for those who love one another for my sake; those who sit with one another for My sake; those who visit each other for My sake; and those who spend on each other for My sake.” [Musnad Ahmad]

And Allah knows best.

Wassalam,

Checked & Approved by Faraz Rabbani

Making 70 Excuses for Others in Islam – A Key Duty of Brotherhood

In the Name of Allah, the Benevolent, the Merciful

Hamdun al-Qassar, one of the great early Muslims, said, “If a friend among your friends errs, make seventy excuses for them. If your hearts are unable to do this, then know that the shortcoming is in your own selves.” [Imam Bayhaqi, Shu`ab al-Iman, 7.522]

Imam Ghazali (Allah have mercy upon him) also quotes this in the Ihya.

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said, “Overlook the slips of respected people.” [Bukhari in al-Adab al-Mufrad; Abu Dawud; Nasa’i in al-Kubra; and others–rigorously authentic (sahih), from A’isha (Allah be pleased with her)]

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The General Basis for Making Excuses

Ibn Ajiba (Allah have mercy upon him) mentions that making excuses for others returns to the Prophet’s words (peace and blessings be upon him) that, “A believer is a mirror of the believer. [Abu Dawud, from Abu Hurayra (Allah be pleased with him); sound (hasan)] So what you see in your brethren is a reflection of what is within you–so beware.

The way of purity and sincerity is to look at everyone–friend and foe–with the eye of sincere concern (nasiha) and mercy. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) said that, “Religion is sincere concern (ad-dinu’n nasiha).” [Muslim and Nasa’i, from Tamim ad-Dari] And, “It is only the merciful who are granted mercy by the All-Merciful. Be merciful to those on earth and the Lord of the Heavens will be merciful to you.” And, “None of you believes until they wish for others as they wish for themselves.” [Abu Dawud and Tirmidhi, from Abdullah ibn Amr (Allah be pleased with him); soundly authentic (hasan sahih) according to Tirmidhi]

This is why Abdullah ibn Muhammad ibn Munazil (Allah have mercy upon him), of the early Muslims, said, “The believer seeks excuses for their brethren, while the hypocrite seeks out the faults of their brethren.” [Sulami, Adab al-Suhba]

Why 70 Excuses?

This is because the default assumption about all humans and their actions is that they are sound and free of error. This is considered our operating certainty. After this, if we find something that makes us doubt about them, we are not permitted to leave this operating certainty that they did not err for mere doubts or misgivings.

Allah Most High commanded us: “Believers! Leave much doubt, for most doubt is sinful.” [Qur’an, 49.12]

The doubts and misgivings about others that are sinful are those that do not have a sound basis that would be sufficient to leave our operating assumption about others that they are upright and their actions free of error.

And Allah alone gives success.

-Shaykh Faraz Rabbani

We were all created in His image, and yet we were each created different and unique. No two people are alike. No two hearts beat to the same rhythm. If God had wanted everyone to be the same, He would have made it so. Therefore, disrespecting differences and imposing your thoughts on others is tantamount to disrespecting God’s holy scheme.

– Shams-e-Tabriz rahimahullah –

Q – What things do women need to pay attention to in order to protect their families’ peace and happiness?

First of all, women need to be careful about their service to Allah and to be devout. In this respect they need to pay attention to their prayers and worship in addition to being sensitive about what is lawful and what is prohibited in Islam.

A woman’s piety should manifest in her family through encouraging her husband, her children, her relatives and even her neighbors to give charity and perform good deeds. A pious woman is like a sweet-smelling flower of Paradise!

The most important task of a woman, after service to Allah, is to make her husband and her other family members happy. Making her husband happy and not shadowing the happiness of the family will grant a wife the contentment of Allah the Almighty. In fact the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) says in this regard:

Pious Woman

A pious woman makes her husband happy when he looks at her face; she fulfills her husband’s licit requests and when he is away from her, she protects his property and honor. (Ibn Maja, Nikah, 5/1857)

Therefore a pious woman looks for ways to make her family happy and she finds them.


Q – Can we elaborate this matter a little more? To what things does a wife need to pay most attention in her daily life and in her house?

At home she must take great care of herself. She needs to be clean and well-groomed. Being untended and dirty will make her husband lose his respect for her. A wife should stay away from all appearances that her husband does not like, because if a man cannot find what he looks for in a woman in his wife, his heart may turn toward what is inappropriate and prohibited, which will destroy the happiness and peace in the family. So a wise woman offers herself like a bouquet of flowers to her grateful husband. It is in her best interests that he look forward to being at home in the evening.

A pious woman should meet her husband at the door with a smiling face and in the morning should send him off to work with kind words and prayers. Even if her own day’s work has exhausted her, she should conceal her fatigue and not make a wry face in front of him. She should share her husband’s worries and help him to relax.

She should keep the counsel of her own emotions rather than disturb the tranquility of the house. Umm Sulaym (may Allah be pleased with her), a Companion of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), gave an extraordinary example of such behavior. Even the death of her child did not overcome her compassion toward her husband. According to the narrative, Abu Talha’s son, who had been gravely ill, died when his father was not home. Umm Sulaym (may Allah be pleased with her) washed and enshrouded the body. She commanded the other members of the household, “Do not tell Abu Talha of his son’s death before I tell do.” When Abu Talha came home, he asked, “How is my son?”

Umm Sulaym (may Allah be pleased with her) replied, “His pains are relieved and I think he is resting right now.” Then she brought her husband dinner and after that they went to bed. In the morning, when Abu Talha wanted to go out, Umm Sulaym said, “Abu Talha! What do you think of what our neighbors did? I left something in their trust and they did not give it back when I asked for it.”

Abu Talha (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “They did wrong.”

Then Umm Sulaym said, “O Abu Talha! Your son was entrusted to you by Allah the Almighty. He has reclaimed His trust.”

For a while Abu Talha was baffled and quiet. Then he said, “We belong to Allah and to Allah we are continuously returning.”

When Abu Talha (may Allah be pleased with him) went to the mosque for prayer, he told everything to the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him). The Prophet prayed for them, “O Allah! Bestow your blessing upon them with regard to that night of theirs.”

Less than a year later, Allah granted the couple another son. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) took a date, chewed it, took some of it out of his mouth, put it into the child’s mouth and named him Abdullah – “Servant of Allah.” It is narrated that seven out of Abdullah’s nine children memorized the whole Qur’an as a result of the blessings of the aforementioned prayer. (Bukhari, Jana’iz, 42: Aqiqa, 1; Muslim, Adab, 23: Fada’il al-Sahaba, 107).


Q – What other things does a wife need to be careful about in her relations with her husband?

She should never neglect her husband and never put him in second place among the members of the family. A normal man cannot accept to be in second place, for that is against his nature. Continue reading

Manners towards everything close to the Messenger of Allahﷺ

The lovers of the Prophetﷺ manifested the best examples of manners towards and everything close to the Messenger of Allahﷺ.The state of the Ottoman sultan Yavuz Selim, who loved the Prophetﷺ, is a good example for us. He conquered Egypt in 1517 and took over the office of the caliphate. On Friday February 20th, when preacher of the Malik Muayyad Mosque called him as “Ḥākim al-Ḥaramayn al-Sharifayn or ruler of the two honorable cities or Mecca and Medina”, he stopped the preacher and told him with tearful eyes:

“No, no! I am not the ruler of these blessed places. On the contrary, I am “Ḥādim al-Ḥaramayn al-Sharifayn or the servant of the two honorable cities or Mecca and Medina.”

Then he took the carpet off the ground and prostrated on earth and thanked his Lord. And as a sign of his servitude, he put a plume in the shape of a broom on top of his turban from that day on.

Another magnificent example of respect was manifested by the oppressed and martyred Ottoman sultan Abdulaziz Khan. One day when he was lying sick in his bed, he was told that: “He had a message from Medina.”

He told his assistants:

“Help me to stand up immediately. I need to listen to the requests coming from these blessed cities standing. It is disrespectful to listen to the requests of the neighbors of the Prophetﷺ lying in bed.”

And he also performed ritual ablution whenever he got mail from Medina, kissed the letters for there was Medina’s dust over them and then gave them to his head clerk in order to be opened and read.