To Those Who Say Loving The Prophet ﷺ Too Much Leads To Shirk

Bismillah-ir Rahman-ir Raheem

Loving Muhammad, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is the religion; and knowing his station (peace be upon him) is the religion! Loving him (peace be upon him) is a PART of the religion, and if you do not have this part you do not have the religion! Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said tells us why.

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Whilst in Makkah, during my recent trip, I had the opportunity to converse with some of the scholars of Makkah; may Allah Most High bless the scholars, one of whom said: “I think people are exaggerating when they speak about the love of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), and I fear their exaggeration will lead them to shirk (polytheism).”

I said: may Allah bless you and open the doors of goodness for you, I understand your concern is about tawhid (the oneness of God), but we should see what the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said:

In a Hadith, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said if a person possesses three things he will taste the sweetness of faith:

  1. the first is to love Allah Most High and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) more than anyone or thing,
  2. second, to love whom you love for the sake of Allah Most High, and
  3. third, to dislike returning to deviance after having been saved and guided from it by Allah Most High as much as he would hate being thrown into the fire. (Imam Muslim)

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said in this hadith that the first of the three is to love Allah Most High and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him); he did not say love Allah Most High and then love the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him)! The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) used the word and because loving the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is loving Allah Most High!

In another hadith, narrated in Muslim and Bukhari, the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said: None of you believe until he loves me more than himself, his children and his parents.

And as narrated in Bukhari (6257), Syedina Omar (may Allah be pleased with him) said, “O Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), I love you more than anything but myself.”

To which the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) replied: “No! I swear by the One in whose Hand is my soul, you cannot claim iman until I am more beloved to you than yourself!”

Then Syedina Omar (may Allah be pleased with him) said: “Now, by Allah Most High, you are more beloved to me than myself!”

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him): “Now, Ya Omar, you can claim iman!”

Recalling this hadith, I said to our brother that the companions of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) were not even worried about loving him (peace be upon him) more than themselves!

If you think you are trying to compare between Allah Most High and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), and in doing so you say to yourself that you do not want to make them on the same level (to avoid shirk), and hence you think to lower the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) slightly to insure the safety of your iman – that is the danger that should cause us to worry!

Our love for the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is love for Allah Most High!

This confuses some as they are unable to understand Allah Most High, and so they are fearful of relating or mixing – this fear in itself is shirk!

The Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said in a hadith that we should love Allah Most High for all the blessings He bestows upon us, love the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) because Allah Most High loves him, and to love the family of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) because of our love for him!

So our love for Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is love for Allah Most High!

The Qur’an describes aspects of the station of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) and Allah Most High love for him. Allah Most High teaches us in the Qur’an in Surah Ash-Shu’ara (82), that Ibrahim (peace be upon him) begged Allah Most High for forgiveness: “And I hope that He will forgive my sins on the Day of Judgment.”

And what did Allah Most High say to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) in Surah Al-Fath: “That Allah has forgiven you for what preceded of your sin and what will follow and complete His favor upon you and guide you to a straight path.”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is begging Allah Most High and Allah Most High is giving the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) without him even asking!

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) said in Surah Ibrahim (35): “…protect my children and I from worshipping idols”

And Allah Most High said to the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) in Surah Al Ahzab (33): “…Allah intends only to remove from you the impurity, O people of the household, and to purify you completely.”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is begging for purification, and Allah Most High is granting the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him) and his family full purification!

In Surah As-Saffat (99), Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) states that: “Indeed, I will go to my Lord.”

And in Surah Al-Isra (1), Allah Most High says: “Glory to the One who took His slave at night…”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is going and the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is being taken!

In Surah Ahli-Imran (173), Allah Most High relates to us the words of Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him): “Allah Most High is my Sponsor and He is the best of Sponsors.”

And in Surah Al-Anfal (64), Allah Most High says to the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him): “Oh Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him), Allah Most High is your Sponsor…!”

Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) is stating the Allah Most High is his Sponsor, whilst Allah Most High is telling us that He is the Sponsor of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)!

In Surah Ash-Shua’ra (87), Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him) asks Allah Most High: “And do not disgrace me on the Day they are [all] resurrected.”

And in Surah At-Tahrim (8), Allah Most High says: “…the Day when Allah will not disgrace the Prophet and those who believed with him.” (peace be upon him)

Not only did Allah Most High tell us that there will be no disgrace upon the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him), but that Allah Most High will also not disgrace the believers because of the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)!

Within all these ayat we see the greatness of Prophet Ibrahim (peace be upon him), Khalilullah, the one that Allah Most High chose as a friend, the one described as an entire ummah, the one in whose lineage all the subsequent Prophets reside, but yet we see the greatest station in the Prophet Muhammad (peace be upon him)!

Loving the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) is faith. If the ummah were to have this love, we would not be where we are now. Do not fear shirk for the one who loves; we should fear for the one who does not love. LOVE IS NOT THE CAUSE OF OUR ISSUES; IT IS THE LACK OF SUCH LOVE!

May Allah Most High guide us to iman, and make us worthy of following the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him).

May Allah Most High reward our friend with the best, as he made us cry in the House of Allah Most High!

Our encounter reminded us of the great ulema of the past, in that once they had a discussion and they felt the outcome of the discussion in their heart, they would leave whatever stance they were upon. As such, we were humbled to meet this alim, as it reminded us of the great ulema: Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him) held the opinion that you cannot benefit from the skin of a dead animal or the child of a dead animal because Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him) said to not benefit or use anything from a dead animal (narrated by Imam Ahmad). In a discussion that took place between the great scholar Ishaq ibn Rahaway (may Allah be pleased with him) and Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him), the later stated that he believed that one could not benefit from the skin of a dead animal, to which Imam Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with him) said that one can benefit from the skin of a dead animal if it is cleaned properly, as that was mentioned by Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). Upon hearing this, Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him) left his opinion because of the hadith that was narrated, and coincidentally, Imam Ishaq (may Allah be pleased with him) left his opinion upon hearing the hadith narrated by Imam Shafi (may Allah be pleased with him)!

Our brother reminded us of them.

May Allah Most High bless us and open our hearts to the love of the Messenger of Allah (peace be upon him). Allahumma salli alaa Syedina Muhammad wa alaa Ahli Syedina Muhammad, fi kulli lamhatin wa nafasin ‘adada maa wa see-a-hu ‘il-muLLAH

-By Shaykh Faid Mohammed Said

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How should families take care of disciplining children?

First of all, we should be very clear that children are divine trusts to us and sprout from our own essence. For sensitive souls, the melodies of happiness at home begin with the soothing music of happy children.

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As it is expressed in the traditions of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), children are “flowers of Paradise,” “fruit of hearts,” and “divine blessings.” Children are the best blessings of our Lord. How can anyone forget the joy at the birth of a first child? Children’s smiles are like gifts from Paradise. For a mother to discipline, raise and contribute fine children to society is therefore the most honorable of occupations. A mother’s heart is the first school of a child: here the child receives its basic training. In addition, righteous generations raised with great care will be protective shields between their parents and Hellfire. One of the most important duties of parents is to equip their children with Islamic virtues and good character. Yet it is not merely the central duty of parents to raise faithful and upright children: it also is a guarantee of receiving continuous rewards until the end of time.

Children are exceptional fruits of family happiness and a strong connection between the mother and the father. They are the most valuable trusts of Allah to the parents. People’s responsibilities are expressed in the following saying of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):

All of you are guardians and are responsible for your charges: … a man is a guardian of his family and is responsible for his charge; and a woman is guardian of the household of her husband and is responsible for her charge … (Bukhari, Wasaya, 9; Muslim, Imara, 20)

The Qur’an says:

O you who believe! Save yourselves and your fam- ilies from a fire whose fuel is men and stones … (66:6)

The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) explains this verse, saying:

Keep them away from committing the things prohibited by Allah the Almighty and encourage them to perform good deeds. That is the way to save them from Hellfire. (Alusi, XXVIII, 156)

Discipline of children should begin with the training of parents; such an important job can only be successfully performed with the benefit of proper training. How can inadequate parents discipline their children? As the poet says,

He, himself, is a dodderer in need of help

How is he supposed to help others?

Thus if child discipline begins starts parent discipline, it will yield more effective results. Again, as it is expressed by the poet Seyri:

Father, pillar of the family, must be upright and strong

Mother, heart of the family, must be a rose, sweet and warm

Balaghal ula bikamaalihi- POEM ABOUT THE MIR’AJ

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Balaghal ula bikamaalihi
He [Muhammad ﷺ ] reached the highest place by his Perfection.

Kasha fad-dujaa bijamaalihi
He removed darkness by his Beauty.

Hasunat jami’u khisaalihi
Beautiful are all his Attainments

Sallu ‘alayhi wa aalihi
Send blessings to Him and his Family

This quatrain (ruba’i – Poem) was written by Shaykh Saadi Shirazi (rahimahu Llah) and is found in the introduction to his “Gulistan”. This most famous (ruba’i – Poem) written by Shaykh Saadi Shirazi (rahimahu Llah) covering the event of Mir’aj of our Beloved Prophet (salla Llahu ‘alayhi wa sallam). There is a very interesting event behind this ruba’i, when Shaykh Saadi (rahimahu Llah) wrote this ruba’i he was not getting the last line which would complete the ruba’i and because of this he was not satisfied and was worried, what is lacking, why I’m not unable to complete the last line and in these thought he slept, what Shaykh Saadi (rahimahu Llah) saw was unbelievable.

He found himself at the court of our Beloved Prophet (salla Llahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) surrounded by Sahaba Karam (radi Allah ‘anhum). The Prophet (salla Llahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) asked Shaykh Saadi (rahimahu Llah)

what happen why are u worried what has disturb you.

Shaykh Saadi (rahimahu Llah) replied

Ya Rasulullah (salla Llahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) I have written a ruba’i in Your praise but I am not getting the last line.

The Beloved Prophet (salla Llahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) replied

Read it here what have u written.

Shaykh Sadi (rahimahu Llah) read the above lines; and got stuck our Beloved Prophet (salla Llahu ‘alayhi wa sallam) then completed the ruba’i by saying sallu ‘alayhi wa aalihi (Send blessings to Him and his Family).

Salawat’us-Sharifah

In the Holy Quran, Allah, glory unto Him, vows by the Prophet’s life. Mentioning his great name next to His Own, the Almighty has required belief in his prophethood, as a precondition of being a worthy servant. Allah took offense in others raising their voices in the presence of His Beloved , cautioning against calling out his name like any other. What’s more, the Almighty has stated that He and the angels send their numerous blessings, salawat’us-sharifah, to the Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him), ordering his ummah amply do the same.

In accordance with the ayah:

“Allah and His angels send blessings on the Prophet: O Believers! Send your blessings on him and salute him with all respect,” (al-Ahzab, 56) sending salawat’us-sharifah to that Great Being is a duty for all Believers, laid down by Allah, glory unto Him.

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Narrating the following is Ubayy ibn Kab (RadiAllahu Anhu):

“A third of the night had passed when the Messenger of Allah (Peace and blessings be upon him) awoke from his sleep and said:

‘Remember Allah, people, remember Allah! Blown will be the first horn that will rattle the ground. Then will follow the second. Death will arrive with all its intensity; death will arrive with all its intensity…’

‘I send lots of salawat’us-sharifah, Messenger of Allah’,said I. ‘How often should I do it?’

‘As much as you wish’ he (Peace and blessings be upon him) replied.

‘Would it be right if I spared a quarter of my prayer for it?’ I again inquired.

‘Spare as much from it as you wish’, he advised. ‘But it will be better for you if you spared more.’

‘Then I will spare half ’, I proposed.

‘As you wish…But better if you spared more’, said he.

‘How about I spared two-thirds then?’

‘As you wish… But better if you spared more’.

‘How would it be then if I send salawat’us-sharifah in the entire time I spare for prayer?’ I then asked.

‘If you do’, the Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) replied, ‘then Allah will rid you of all your troubles and forgive your sins.’” (Tirmidhi, Qiyamat, 23/2457)

Devotees of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), therefore, embrace the salawat’us-sharifah as a continuous chant, for they are means of increasing the love of the Prophet in a Believer’s heart. Appropriately following the Blessed Messenger (peace and blessings be upon him) and making the most of the quintessential example he has provided doubtless comes through a grasp of the reality of the Quran and Sunnah, which in turn is possible only by virtue of drawing closer to the exemplary morals of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him), and delving into the depths of his heart.

No mortal has succeeded in describing his (peace and blessings be upon him) essential attribute; his towering morals and disposition has eluded comprehension. The wise, those spiritual sultans, even the great Jibril (Alaihi Salaam), have all accepted being on his path as the greatest honor, begging by his door as the most indefinable bliss.

On another note, according to the manners of prayer advised by Islam, all prayers begin and end with thanking Allah, glory unto Him, and sending blessings to the Blessed Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him). There is an established conviction that Allah, glory unto Him, never turns down a salawat’us-sharifah, which, in essence, is a prayer and plea to the Almighty; the precise reason as to why prayers are adorned with it, both in the start and in the end. That is to say, squeezing in personal prayers amid two, whose acceptances are highly expected, is to ensure their acceptance as well.

“A prayer is left hanging between the earth and the skies,” states Omar  “and is not raised to Allah until blessings are sent to the Messenger of Allah .” (Tirmidhi, Witr, 21/486)

Therefore do not forget sending your blessings and peace to him (peace and blessings be upon him)…for you too stand in need of his intercession in the darkest of hours!

Peace & Blessings

Things That Men Need to Pay Attention to in the Family

Supporting the religious and moral growth of women and children, assisting their education in the ways that will bring them eternal happiness, are among the most significant duties of men.

The happiness of a family depends on a righteous father’s strength of will. To be a righteous father means to be a father who provides his family with sustenance, discipline and protection. All these require a man to be intelligent, experienced, skilled and especially to have strong faith and good morals.

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To support the religious and moral growth of women and children, assisting their education in the ways that will bring them eternal happiness, are among the most significant duties of men. The Qur’an states:

O you who believe! Save yourselves and your fam- ilies from a fire whose fuel is men and stones … (66:6)

The full scope of this task encompasses the members of our families, our relatives, our neighbors and ultimately everybody in the country according to their positions and potentials; because just as families shape their greater environment, so also does the greater environment shape our families.

A father should pay attention to his family’s Qur’anic education and Sunnah of the Holy Prophet (Peace and blessings be upon him) and inspire them with a love for Allah and the beloved Prophet Muhammad (Peace and blessings be upon him). At the same time, it is necessary for him to teach his family the manners and customs of society.

A man has to protect his family from all kinds of negative influences. A father should keep children away from friends and places that may spoil their religion and morality, from the immoral shows on television, from vicious and worthless books and magazines. In short, protecting the family from attacks arriving both inside and outside the home is the responsibility of men.

A husband should speak pleasantly and gently with his wife; he should not alienate her by approaching her rudely and harshly. The Messenger of Allah (peace and blessings be upon him) says:

The best of you is the one who is best in his treatment of women. (Tirmidhi, Rada, 11. See also Abu Dawud, Sunna, 15; Ibn Maja, Nikah, 50).

A wise man leaves his business life out of his home. He does not bring his problems home.

An intelligent and insightful man forgives his family members’ worldly mistakes and approaches them with mercy and compassion. He keeps his wife’s secrets and deficiencies from everybody.

However, he does not ignore his family’s faults in religious matters. He seriously confronts errors when they occur and heads off in advance mistakes that might be committed because of laziness or ig- norance. He meticulously does everything possible to support the religious education of his family. He teaches his children himself as much as he can and when necessary, he also gets professional help from effective scholars. These things, too, are among the responsibilities of the father.

A man should consult with his wife in family matters and should not give her responsibilities heavier than she can handle. He should help his wife with child care and discipline, because both child care and housework may exhaust her. Helping women in their work will increase mutual love and strengthen family ties.

A husband should pray for the welfare of his wife. He should not go on long trips without telling her in advance. He should also not bring guests home without getting her consent first. He should never insist that his wife go out in front of strangers to serve them. He should keep his family away from mixed environments as much as possible.

A father is like the sun in the sky of a family; a mother is like the moon, covered with veils of chastity; and the children are like the stars.

-An Excerpt from the book, “Peaceful Home: Paradise on Earth”

Display of depth and sensitivity of the sincerity of Ali رضي الله ﺗﻌﺎﻟﯽٰ عنه

During a battle Ali (May Allah be pleased with him) had captured an enemy soldier and was about to kill him. The man suddenly spat on the blessed and radiant face of Ali (May Allah be pleased with him), in response to the nasty inclination that had arisen within him.

It would have been mere child’s play for that brave and gallant ‘lion of Allah’ to cut off the head of that enemy with one fell swoop. However, Ali stopped suddenly, anxious that at that moment his nafs had tainted his intention which was to fight for Allah and nothing else. He stopped and slowly put down his sword, which had been named Zulfikar and had been a gift to him from the Prophet, deciding not to kill his enemy.

The shocked man on the ground lay in a wretched state awaiting his death. He had thought that Ali (May Allah be pleased with him) would display an even more intense effort with greater anger and rage as a result of his spitting in his face. However, it was not as he expected. Suddenly he came face to face with a truth that he could never have imagined. The enemy, who could not make sense of this action of this hero of Islam and hero of the hearts of people, asked Ali in shock and with great curiosity:

“O Ali! Why did you stop when you were just about to kill me? What brought about this change of mind? What happened that made you go from a violent rage to a remarkable calmness… You were like a bolt of lightning about to strike before you suddenly calmed down…”

Hazrat Ali (May Allah be pleased with him) replied:

“I use this sword of the Prophet in the path of Allah only. I never let my nafs interfere… When you spat on my face you wished to anger and insult me. If I had succumbed to my anger at that point I would have killed you for the base reason of giving in to my own whims, which is something that does not befit a believer. Whereas I fight for the sake of Allah, and not for the satisfaction of my pride”.

As a result the heart of that enemy found life again in response to the lofty, praiseworthy character of the person he had come to kill. He took heed from Ali’s faith, his sincerity and his opposition to his own desires. The man subsequently became Muslim.

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