The grand confidant of the secrets of the Prophetﷺ

Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) became a crystal mirror to reflect the Prophet’s heart. Thus, he was the prime example of unconditional surrender to the Prophet’s spirituality. Due to such great surrender, everything that belonged to the Prophetﷺ had deep significance for him, and so he became the first resource for Companions who sought to discern the true meaning of the words and acts of the Prophetﷺ. He truly understood the ultimate meaning of the messages of the Prophetﷺ.

The verse, “This day have I perfected for you your religion and completed My favor on you and chosen for you Islam as a religion…” (Ma’ida 5:3) was revealed during what proved to be the Farewell Pilgrimage of the Prophetﷺ. Everybody but Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) was happy. They all thought the verse was announcing the perfect state of the religion of Islam. Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) alone discerned that the verse meant that Allah would soon take the Prophetﷺ from them. (1)

During his last illness the Prophetﷺ could no longer lead the prayers, for he was too weak to stand. He therefore chose Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) to lead the prayers. One day he felt better and returned to the mosque. After giving advice to various Companions, he remarked, “Allah offered one of His servants a choice between this world and what He has with Himself, and that servant chose what Allah has with Himself.”

Upon hearing these words, Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) felt downcast, and wept bitterly. With his wise and tender heart, he realized that this was a farewell speech. Since he was the prime confidant of the secrets of the Prophetﷺ, he noticed what others were unable to understand. He began to cry out like a wailing reed, “O Prophet, you are dearer to me than my mother and father! We sacrifice our fathers, mothers, lives, properties, and children for you!” (2)

No one in the congregation was aware that the Prophetﷺ was in the mood to leave this world. No one understood why Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) was crying. They asked each other, “Why should this old man cry when the Prophetﷺ merely spoke of a person who preferred to go to Allah?”(3) They did not realize that the servant who preferred to go to Allah when given the chance of staying in the world was the Prophet himself. They were unable to sense what Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) sensed.

The Prophetﷺ kept talking, both to console Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) and to tell the Companions to appreciate Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎). “We have returned all favors done us at the same level or a higher one except for the favors Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) has done us!.. He has done so many favors for me that Allah Himself will return his favors on the Day of Judgment. Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎) is among those most dedicated to me in companionship and property. If I were to take an intimate friend other than my Lord, I would take Abu Bakr (رضي الله عنه‎). But what binds us is the brotherhood of Islam.”

Then the Prophetﷺ talked about his forthcoming death: “Let no door leading to Prophet’s mosque remain open except for Abu Bakr’s, as I see a glorious sign over his door…” (4)

So, all doors were closed at that sorrowful time except for Abu Bakr’s. These words of the Prophetﷺ meant that the door of special closeness to the Messenger of Allah can be opened only by unconditional loyalty, dedication, commitment, devotion, friendship, and love.


(1) Elmalılı, III, 1569.

(2) Ahmad, III, 91.

(3) Bukhari, Salah, 80.

(4) Bukhari, al-Ashab al-Nabi 3, al-Manaqib al-Ansar 45, Salah 80; Muslim, al- Fada’il al-ashab al-nabi 2; Tirmidhi, al-Manaqib 15; Ibn al-Sa`d: II 227.

Q – To what issues should young Muslim men and women pay particular attention in order to safeguard the soundness of their family?

We should know that a society rises on the shoulders of its male members, but that its female members also produce its ascension. Without the help of men and women alike, no development or ascent can be achieved. A man who is unhappy at home cannot be successful at work. Consequently we can say that a nation develops through the maturity and experience of its women. The opposite of this is also correct: a nation loses its power and value through the degradation of its female members. History teems with examples. That is why every community needs healthy families.

Although human beings are created with the most perfect of natures, the manifestation of our perfection in a developed personality can be achieved only in a healthy family environment. The family is the primary place where the human personality is educated. Only with a proper education can souls reach lofty spiritual states and stations. We can take lessons from the lives of the prophets and from the lives of the saints.

Felicity and joy in a family depend on mutual respect and understanding between the parties and on the observation of each other’s rights. It is also very important to comprehend the meaning of the verse ittaqu Allah – “be mindful of Allah!” (Qur’an 2: 194) – if happiness in the family is to be achieved.

Our world can become a paradise if the rights of women are observed; and it can also turn into a hell as a result of the violation of their rights. The Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) expressed the significance of women’s rights in his farewell sermon:

“O People, it is true that you have certain rights with regard to your women, but they also have rights over you. Remember that you have taken them as your wives only under Allah’s trust and with His permission. If they abide by your right then to them belongs the right to be fed and clothed in kindness. Do treat your women well and be kind to them, for they are your partners and committed helpers. And it is your right that they do not make friends with anyone of whom you do not approve, as well as never to be unchaste.” (Bukhari, Mukhtasar, X, 398)

Preventing women from raising righteous generations by forcing them into unsuitable occupations is a great mistake. Happiness in a family can be achieved only by employing and protecting both men’s and women’s abilities in the occupations that best fulfill their natures.


Islam affirms the importance of marriages undertaken for the sake of lofty ideals. Marriage has two dimensions, worldly and spiritual. We must be serious and careful in order to make our families functional in both dimensions. It is all too easy for marriage to become one-dimensional. Unfortunately, this kind of marriage often ends up in an unhappy divorce, or continues as a chain of agony until the end of life. Naturally these are not the results we desire when getting married!

Divorce is depicted in one of the sayings of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him) as an incident which shakes Allah’s throne:

“Marry and do not divorce, for verily divorce causes the throne of Allah to shake…” (`Ali al-Muttaqi, IX, 1161/27874)

For a man to divorce a woman merely for his own convenience and pleasure is oppression and great sin, which is certainly prohibited in Islam. It is violating another servant’s right, which will lead to eternal disappointment and destruction.

Divorce often follows from arbitrarily and carelessly performed marriages and it has countless pitiful results. The worst and the severest of these results befall the children. Children who see no warmth in their families and are exposed to frequent abuses from their parents, who are supposed to be their role models, live at the mercy of the streets. Sometimes they run away from their homes and start living in the streets; they shortly fall into the web of alcohol, narcotics, prostitution and crime. This prepares the ground for social destruction.

Of course, there are times when divorce is the only reasonable option. Catholic marriages can never be annulled and must be continued no matter how miserable the parties are. Islamic marriages, by contrast, are contracts and there are legal provisions for terminating contracts when necessary. Every agreement can be superseded by another agreement. If there were no way out of a failed marriage, the couple’s life would be torture. Family unity would be no better than slavery.

Spouses who cannot find solutions to their problems become desperate and may not see situations clearly. This is why Islam allows divorce, but in principle assigns the right of divorce to men, on the theory that they are likely to act more resolutely than women. However, if it has been previously stipulated in the marriage contract, there is no obstacle to giving the right of divorce to women as well. This is known in Islamic law as tafwid al-talaq. Even if the right of divorce has not been given to the wife in the marriage contract, under some circumstances she can still appeal to a court for divorce.

In order to avoid unnecessary divorce, men and women should appreciate each other’s significance and respect each other. Memories, happy moments, welfare, tranquility and all the pleasurable things in life can be achieved under the shadow of divine wisdom. Success will manifest itself through mutual fidelity and sincerity. It is stated in the sayings of the Prophet (peace and blessings be upon him):

“When a man wakes up at night, wakens his wife and they pray two cycles of formal prayer together, they are recorded among the men and women who make much mention of Allah.” (Abu Dawud, Tatawwu`, 18; Witr, 13)

“May Allah show mercy to a man who gets up during the night and prays, who wakens his wife and she prays; if she refuses, he sprinkles water on her face. May Allah show mercy to a woman who gets up during the night and prays, who wakens her husband and he prays; if he refuses she sprinkles water on his face.” (Abu Dawud, Tatawwu`, 17; Witr, 12)

According to the aforementioned Prophetic sayings we can conclude that happiness in a family depends on two great principles:
1. Sincerity of the both parties
2. Mutual encouragement to piety.

Dear Lord! Bestow upon us and upon our families a pious life with which You are content. Make our homes a Paradise of felicity and blessings. Protect our homes from being a scene from Hell. Amin!


-An Excerpt from “A Peaceful Home-Paradise on Earth”

Siddique-e-Akbar (May Allah be pleased with him)

Abu Bakr(RA)

When Sayyiduna Abu Bakr as-Siddiq (Radi Allahu Anhu) was four years old, his father took him in front of an idol in the Ka’bah and said to him, “This is your mighty Lord, so make Sajdah to him.”

When he (Radi Allahu Anhu) heard this he said to the idol, “I am hungry, feed me. I am naked, cloth me. I will throw a stone at you, if you are the Lord then defend yourself.”

There was no response from the idol. So he took a stone and hit the idol. The Divinely blessed power and force of the stone dropped the idol. On seeing this, his father became furious and slapped him on the face. He then took him home and complained to the mother. She replied,

“Leave him alone because when he was born I heard someone from the Unseen saying to me, ‘O servant lady of Allah! Glad tiding to you on the birth of this free child whose name in the skies is Siddique (Truthful) and he will be the close companion of Muhammad (SallAllahu Alayhi wa Sallam)’. At that time I did not know who Muhammad (SallAllahu Alayhi wa Sallam) was and what all this meant”.

Sayyiduna Abu Bakr Siddique (Radi Allahu Anhu) personally reported this incident to the Holy Prophet (SallAllahu Alayhi wa Sallam). After he reported this, an Angel appeared and confirmed,

“Abu Bakr speaks the truth and he is Siddique (Truthful).”

This Hadith Sharif is recorded in “Awaliyul Farsh ila Ma’aaliyul Arsh” and quoted by Imam Ahmad Qastalaani (Alayhir Rahmah) in his commentary of Sahih al-Bukhari.



  • Malfoozat-e-AlaHazrat, Vol. 1, Page 160
  • Irshad al-Sari li Sharh Sahih al-Bukhari, Vol. 8, Page 370
  • Mirqat al-Mafatih Sharh Mishkat al-Masabih, Vol. 11, Page 178

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Peerless virtue and the courage of faith of Abdullah bin Huzafe (RadiAllahu Anhu):

During the caliphate of Hazrat Umar ibn Al-Khattāb (RadiAllahu Anhu), a Muslim army was sent against the Romans in the Qaysariyye district of Damascus. Abdullah bin Huzafe (RadiAllahu Anhu) was in that army. The Romans had taken him hostage. They took him to their king and said:

“This is a companion of Muhammed”.

After having Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) locked up in confinement with no food or drink, he then sent to him a portion of wine and some pork. They watched him for three days. Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) neither placed a hand on the wine nor the pork. They said to the King:
“He has lost much strength now. If you do not take him out of there, he will die”.

The King had him brought to him and asked him:
“What prevented you from eating and drinking?

Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) answered:
“Actually necessity had made the eating of those things lawful for me, yet I did not want to make neither myself nor Islam a laughing stock in front of you”.

In response to this dignified attitude, the King said:
“What if you become a Christian and I give you half of my wealth, and if I make you a partner in all my kingdom and then I give my daughter to you in marriage?”

Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) replied:
“Even if you give me all of your wealth and in fact all of the wealth of Arabia, I would never turn away from the religion of Muhammad (pbuh) for the blinking of an eye”.

The King said:
“In that case I will have you killed”.

To which Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) replied:
“That is for you to decide”.

Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) was then hung up on a crucifix. First of all the archers flung arrows at him but purposefully missed him in order to scare him. Then he was offered the chance to become Christian once more. That blessed Companion did not show even the slightest of tendencies. Upon this the King said:
“Either you become Christian or I will place you in a cauldron of boiling water”.

When he refused again, a boiling cauldron made of copper was brought forth. The King had one of the Muslim slaves brought to him. He offered that he become Christian. When the slave rejected this offer he was thrown into the cauldron. Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) was watching. His skin instantly peeled away from his bones and came off.

The King again suggested to Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) that he become Christian. When he refused once more, he ordered that he be thrown into the cauldron. Just as Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) was about to be thrown into the cauldron, he began to cry. Thinking that he had changed his mind, the King had Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) brought to him and offered that he become Christian once more. When he saw how violently Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) refused, he asked in shock:
“Then why did you cry”?

Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) gave this superb reply:
“Do not think that I cried out of fear of what you wished to do to me. No. I cried because I only have one life to give in the path of Allah. I said to myself: “You have only one life and it is about to be thrown into that cauldron. In just an instant you are going to die in Allah’s cause. Whereas how I wish I had had lives to the number of hairs on my body, so that all of these lives could be sacrificed in order to gain Allah’s pleasure”.

This awesome act displayed by Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) due to his courage of faith and dignity impressed the King and he wished to let him go free.
“Kiss my head so that I may let you go”, he said

To this offer that could have no objection, Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) replied with an offer of his own:
“Will you let all of the other Muslim slaves go free together with me?”

When the King replied that he would, Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) said:
“In that case I will”.

Abdullah (RadiAllahu Anhu) says later:
“I said to myself: “What objection could there be to my kissing the head of one of Allah’s enemies in order to free my own life and the lives of the Muslim slaves? Kiss it and be free”.

That day 80 Muslim slaves were set free. When they returned to Hazrat Umar ibn Al-Khattāb (RadiAllahu Anhu), they told him what had happened. Hazrat Umar ibn Al-Khattāb (RadiAllahu Anhu) said:

“To kiss the head of Abdullah bin Huzafe (RadiAllahu Anhu) is a duty incumbent upon every Muslim! I will be the first to carry out this duty”. He thus got up and went to Abdullah and kissed his head.

Ahlul Ahbah

Bagh janat kay hain behr e madha khwan e Ahl e Bait,
Jaan e alam houn fida aie kha’ndanain Ahl e Bait.


Panjtan Paak


“Bismillahir Rahmanir Rahim has 19 letters, The Angels on the gates of hell fire are 19.. The names of the Ahlul Ahbah if you count the Prophet, Fatima, Ali, Hassan and Hussain is 19 letters. It means the secret of the 3 meems from the Basmala is dressed on the family of the Prophet SallAllahu Alaihi Wa Aalihi Wasallam and that is safety from the fire. Follow and love them”

Sayyid Mawlana Shaykh Hisham Kabbani 

Love for the Ahlul Bayt & Sahaba…

Question: How can someone gain love for the Ahlul bayt & Sahaba?

Keep company with those that love and know them, and read about what Allah Most High says of them in His Book, how the Prophet praised them in his hadith, upon him blessings and peace, and read about their lives and how they benefited the Ummah forever.


-Shaykh Hajj Gibril


Abū Bakr (RadiAllahu ‘anhu), who annihilated himself in the love for the Prophet ﷺ, is also manifested the unique examples of forgiveness. For instance, there was a poor man named Mistah, to who Abū Bakr (RadiAllahu ‘anhu) was regularly helping. When Abū Bakr (RadiAllahu ‘anhu) learned that Mistah was among those who slander Aisha (Radi Allahu ‘anha), he swore that he would not help Mistah and his family anymore. Without Abū Bakr’s (Radi Allahu ‘anhu) financial aid, Mistah and his family became miserable. Upon this the following verses were revealed:

“And let not those of you who possess grace and abundance swear against giving to the near of kin and the poor and those who have fled in Allah’s way, and they should pardon and turn away. Do you not love that Allah should forgive you? And Allah is Forgiving, Merciful.” (24; 22)

“And make not Allah because of your swearing (by Him) an obstacle to your doing good and guarding (against evil) and making peace between men, and Allah is Hearing, Knowing.” (2; 224)

Abu Bakr As-Siddiq (RadiAllahu ‘anhu) said, “Yes, by Allah, I would like that Allah forgive me.” expiated for his broken oath and went on giving Mistah the money he used to give him before. He also added, “By Allah, I will never deprive him of it at all.” (Bukharī, Maghazī, 34; Muslim, Tawbah, 56; Tabarī, Tafsīr, II, 546)

Because continuously forgiving the servants of Allah and becoming worthy of Allah’s forgiveness is an indispensable characteristic of the friends of Allah.